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Sandy Hook Tragedy


The U.S. Postal Service has provided a PO box for the people affected by this tragedy so that anyone who wants to send a note or card can do so. If you would like to send a letter of support, you can send them to the following address:

Messages of Condolence for Newtown
PO Box 3700
Newtown CT 06470

It seems like every blogger has something to say about what happened at Sandy Hook Elementary School.  And at first I wasn’t  going to write anything at all because pretty much everything has been said and I didn’t feel like the world needed another opinion on what happened that tragic day.

That said, I feel like I need to say something. To not say anything is disrespectful to those who have passed.

When I heard what had happened in Connecticut, I felt like I was punched in the gut. Wrapping my mind around such an enormous loss was so very difficult.

To think that someone could hurt a child is hard to comprehend, but to think that someone could kill that many sweet babies and teachers is not something I can mentally handle.

I spent most of Friday crying as I’m sure most of you did as well. And I’m still feeling blue as I watch Newtown bury their children.

This has greatly wounded our nation and we are all struggling to process this.

I feel very helpless when it comes to figuring out how I can help. All I can think to offer right now is prayer. Prayer for the families affected. Prayer for the support people. Prayer for the people of Newtown.

Specifically my prayer will be for strength. They will need a tremendous amount of strength to survive this tragedy.

So many people are talking about what needs to be done so that this type of thing doesn’t happen again. I’m not going to be part of that conversation. The reason being is because no matter what you do in this life, you cannot stop tragedy from happening.

Sometimes very bad things happen and we are powerless to stop it. As long as there are people on this earth, there will be tragedy. Nothing will ever change that. It’s a harsh reality of life.

So, what can we do?

We can love each other as best we can. We can hug and kiss our family members and make sure they know we love them. But I’m sure you already know this. I’m certain I’m preaching to the choir.

My prayers go out for all people who have been affected by this senseless act of violence.  I pray that you are surrounded by people who love and comfort you. And that you survive this tragedy and ultimately find a measure of peace.


  1. Very well written and well said Melanie. I join you in praying for the hundreds of families affected by this tragedy and pray they have the strength to endure the pain and somehow persevere. The investigation isn’t done, we don’t know why and we may never know. We should let these families bury their dead and mourn. We can debate what to do later.

  2. Well said, thank you.

  3. Very well said, Melanie.

  4. We aren’t powerless to stop it. Check if your school has locks on their classroom doors. Sources says they don’t.
    We may not be able to prevent everything but we can do something!

    • Our schools have locks on their doors and visitors need to be buzzed in. I don’t know that locks on the doors matter. People are buzzed in just to find out what they need or want. How that will stop someone from being violent is beyond me. I think if they want to get into a locked building, they will.

      • The shooter in Newtown reportedly had enough ammunition to kill everyone in the entire school. If first responders had taken a little longer who knows how many classrooms he may have wiped out. Looked doors at the very least would have slowed him down until the responders got there. Check the classroom doors.

        • Unfortunately, I’ve heard that the school was locked. He just shot the locks. If he’ll shoot the locks to get into the school, there’s no reason he wouldn’t shoot the locks inside. He didn’t, but that doesn’t mean he couldn’t.

          • Let’s just say as a teacher I wouldn’t work in a classroom without the ability to lock the door. One volatile parent in a custody battle arriving drunk and insisting he is going to take his child no matter what. No weapons but locked doors until police arrive, yes. Weapon found in the school. No idea who it belongs to, doors are locked until police arrive and search the school. I wouldn’t send my child to a school without locks on classroom doors.
            But of course all are welcome to their own opinion!

    • Quote from a new article “The doors were locked at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut, last Friday, but a determined and well-armed intruder was still able to simply break a window to gain entrance inside the building.”

      • Exactly. My argument against metal detectors as well. While this incident is extremely tragic, I do not want my children’s school to resemble a prison. Please no armed “guards” either. These measures don’t make children any safer from a determined mass murderer. If that what is necessary to keep kids “safe” then I will homeschool.

  5. Very well said. Amen.

  6. Schools will be more aware of access processes and vulnerabilities more than ever before and office staff will be tasked to be more vigilant. However, just like our late President Kennedy once said; “You can’t protect against an assassin who is willing to die in the act.” We have to protect but also educate and nurture our children we can’t isolate them from every act of violence and pain. We must do what we can to deter any act of violence of the nature of Sandy Hook in Newtown. As Melanie said above; may the families enduring this tragedy have the strength to endure this ordeal. I pray for them all.

  7. Nice post Mel. I live in CT and work just a few towns over from Newtown. Some of my coworkers are from there but luckily none had kids at Sandy Hook. My heart is so broken from this. I know at least a dozen people who knew a victim. And the fact that it was small kids is too much. I too wish the community and the country the strength to heal. I feel powerless to help too. If your house is washed away in a flood we can help you build a new one. In this tradegy, no one can give these families back what they lost. Heartbreaking.

  8. Patricia N. says:

    As you know, I taught in the public schools for 35 years. Every day I would walk into my classroom and think of ways to divert danger. I would run my students once a month through our danger drills and tell the kids that even though we would probably never need to put them into action, it was always good to be prepared. The thought in a teacher’s mind is always “What can I do to save my children?”. Your children are our children once they come into the classroom and we do the best we can to keep them save. The teacher’s in Sandy Hook have my utmost respect for what they did to protect these precious babies; they couldn’t have done any more. If someone is hell-bent in gaining access to the building, they will.
    Melanie, you put everything beautifully into perspective. I, too, cried all that day. It should never have happened. These parents will somehow heal, but they will never be able to forget. I cannot imagine how devastating this must be for them. Love and prayers to them all.

  9. I also spent a great deal of the weekend praying and feeling grief for this community. I work in law enforcement and I can tell you that no amount of training can prepare you for the aftermath of this magnitude of tragedy. Normal day to day things you see are sometimes horrible enough. I cannot imagine what these survivors and responders have seen. It breaks my heart. Our community has increased police presence at the schools to help put families at ease. It was still hard for me to drop my kids off on Monday. But it is important that our children know that life must go on and that they are loved. Thank you for keeping the “debates” out of it. Right now, that is not going to help anything. This community needs support and you are correct, tragedy will always be a part of the world.

  10. Hugs, Mel…I’m having a hard time processing all this as well.

  11. So very well said. Your words made me cry and will go home and hug my kids and my husband and appreciate all that I have. Thank you.

  12. Thank you Melanie for a lovely post.

  13. Melanie – So beautifully written. As a parent, the tragedy is simply unimaginable. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Judy

  14. Thank you for such a beautifully written post. I didn’t blog about it because I didn’t feel that I had anything meaningful to add to the discussion. But you are absolutely right, the victims deserve to be remembered. I pray every day that God never allow me to know the pain of outliving my children. My heart and prayers go out to the families affected. They will need lots of love, strength and support to get through this terrible time.

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